The draw for me to sit with people who face terrible loss, or who are facing their terrible behavior, is deep. Every time I do it I am inspired. It has touched me in extremely profound ways. Some people have commented on this work, e.g. http://www.oprah.com/own-confronting/Colleen-Meets-Her-Husbands-Killer, and asked me “How can you do it?” They [...]
For the last 13 years I have competed in the xterra World Championship off-road triathlon. It’s held on Maui and has become an annual tradition for me. I love training with my friends who do it, and am always inspired seeing the amazing athletes that come from all over the world to compete in the [...]
In January 2011 I was asked to work with three people to facilitate a restorative dialogue (a.k.a. victim offender mediation) at Walla Walla prison in Washington State. The dialogue was filmed for Confronting on the Oprah Winfrey Network http://www.oprah.com/own-confronting/Colleen-Meets-Her-Husbands-Killer
Colleen Shapel’s husband Bob, who was also her best friend for most of her life, was senselessly [...]
Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D. writes about her fascinating experience as a Harvard trained brain scientist who suffered a stoke in My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journal.
I was fortunate to read Dr. Taylor’s book during a recent 6 hour train ride from New York City to [...]
Most people have heard that they can look at situations anyway they want, that we don’t have to suffer by adverse situations. “We cannot escape pain, but suffering is optional,” but how exactly do you do this? It’s one thing to know something, but how to actually apply what we know and live it is [...]
On July 5 & 6, 2010, I visited two APAC prisons (Associacao de Protecao e Assistencia aos Condenados in English translated as: Association for Protection and Assistance of Convicts) in the city of Itauna, state of Minas Gerias, Brazil. The original APAC prison, which was in San Paulo, Brazil was reportedly the [...]
The Columbia Heights/Shaw Family Collaborative (CHSFC) is a community based organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for people in Washington D.C. It uses restorative justice interventions and provides three basic levels of programs for the community: family group conferencing, youth violence prevention, and work training and jobs for adults. Solution-focused brief therapy [...]
Martin Luther King, Jr. would have been 81 on his birthday January 15, 2010.
He received the Nobel Peace Prize at age 35, and although he only lived for 39 years, his impact on the world was immense. Not only is he a hero for his work to end racial injustice in the United States, but [...]
“We simply have got to stay and keep helping the people touched by these programs,” says Barbara Tudor with passion and zeal. When she says she is “staying” you know she means it. She is a sturdy sixty-ish woman with curly blond short hair and clear blue eyes. Most striking is her abundant energy, which [...]
About five years ago I learned about solution-focused brief therapy (SFBT) (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solution_focused_brief_therapy), which focuses on “preferred futures” instead of “problem talk,” and since then I have been applying it to my work and life.
While restorative justice gives us the opportunity to face wrongdoing and social injustice by imaging what we need to heal or to [...]